Are you a little out of sorts in the spotlight? In every day conversation, you have no problem being you and sharing your ideas. Why is it that when you stand up in front of the room, something changes?
Being in the spotlight seems to magnify underlying insecurities for many people. It's never easy to put ourselves out there to be scrutinized. It can be nerve wracking!
If you struggle with staying calm in the spotlight, I can help.
Here is a simple yet effective strategy that takes much of the fear out of public speaking:
Shift your focus from what your audience thinks about you,
to how you can serve them.
How? Here are four practical tips that can help you shift your mindset from feeling vulnerable to feeling more powerful as you speak to serve:
Tip #1 Be a Giver
People are more likely to trust a giver than a taker. What is it that you have to give? Focus on that. As the well known author and speaker Simon Sinek says,
“We are highly social animals. Even at a distance onstage, we can tell if you’re a giver or a taker, and people are more likely to trust a giver – a speaker that gives them value, that teaches them something new, that inspires them – than a taker.”
Tip #2 Meet Audience Members Before You Start
It’s a great idea to meet a few members of your audience before you present. A warm smile and a handshake can remind you that you are talking to individuals. You want to keep things personal. Remember that you are essentially having mini-conversations when you address an audience, and influence happens one person at a time. If you can have a conversation, you can give a good presentation.
Tip #3 Don’t Spend Too Much Time Introducing Yourself
Most speakers lose their audience’s attention at the top of a speech because they spend way too much time introducing themselves. Don’t worry too much about establishing credibility at the start of your presentation. It’s not about you, but it is about the value you can bring to your audience. You will establish credibility as you share valuable information.
Tip #4 Be Personable, Conversational and Invested
Your audience wants you to be relaxed and at ease, so please be personable and conversational. Speak from bullets and don’t try to memorize your talk. Allow your voice to express your passion about your topic. If you truly care, we will too.
If you apply these tips, you’ll feel calmer in the spotlight. For help honing your skills or to tackle a specific speaking challenge feel free to reach out to me. I’m have room for a few new coaching clients. Let’s chat!